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 insights

a combination of cbt (questioning and reframing beliefs) and visualisations

visualisations

for the person who hurt you

imagine passing the pain back to the person who gave it to you to them to keep, as they deserve

for the moment. but dont get obsessed

probably hurts but is good for the moment

for the person you hate so much

question why do you hate them so much and is it reasonable

inquire and delve deeper

you would need to be good at labeling your emotions to do this

example

beneath pain can be regret, low self esteem, escapism, or even guilt

role models

think about role models and also purifying yourself

like people who embody what you want to be

example people full of self love in loving relationships

people who are disciplined and single minded

finally commit to becoming a better person

i think self accountability is important

there is always this unspoken contract between me and myself

if i break it, i get pain

if i discover the contract and know how to weld it, my pain is gone